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It wasn't your fault, but you have been hurt and affected by your partner or spouse's sex addiction or infidelity in many ways. However, healing is possible and you can become the best you you were meant to be. To do so, you can start with the 12 Steps program. For over 35 years, Dr. Doug Weiss, national psychologist and author, has helped thousands of couples dealing with sex addiction and infidelity in their relationships. In this video, Dr. Weiss discusses Step 5 of the recovery journey, which is about having "admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs".

In Step 4, you made an inventory of your life, the good, the bad, and the ugly that occurred. Now with this fifth one, there are three things you are going to do with the list. You are to admit to God, to yourself, and to another person the things you did and the things that were done to you. This can be a big process and seem daunting, but it's necessary to take the time and opportunity to do so. Admitting is verbal acknowledgement, a verbal external process. It's not an internal one inside your head. This is not something you do just by yourself.

First you admit to God, who loves you no matter what. He was there for the good that occurred, the bad that you did, and the ugly that happened to you. He knows what you went through and understands it.

Second, you admit to yourself what happened. Just admit out loud, talk to yourself about the things of your inventory. You can also bring it up a notch and give feedback to yourself in a self interactive conversation.

Lastly, you admit to another person. Make sure you share with someone that can be trusted, like a counselor, sponsor, coach, pastor, etc. to ensure confidentiality. They don't have to give you feedback, but they are responsible to hear your story. This helps to break down the lies of being unworthy and unlovable, to help wash away the shame and guilt you may have.

Step 5 is a big venture to trust again. Some have neglected this step or tried to skip it altogether. However, it's when you admit the wrongs and uglies of your life, that you can break the illusion that people wouldn't love you if they really knew you. Honor yourself by committing to doing this as soon as possible, making the progress you can. Revelation can occur and you can start to better understand the things in your life and yourself. You will be able to move away from mistrust and really start living again.

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Doug Weiss, Ph.D., is a nationally known author, speaker and licensed psychologist. He is the executive director of Heart to Heart Counseling Center in Colorado Springs, Colorado, and the author of several books including, Partner Betrayal Trauma ™.

You may contact Dr. Weiss via his website, https://www.drdougweiss.com/ or on his Facebook https://www.facebook.com/drdougweiss/
by phone at 719-278-3708 or through email at heart2heart@xc.org