If you grew up with a narcissistic parent, you’ve likely experienced some behaviors that would seem totally crazy or even unbelievable to other people.

You know first hand what it feels like to have your needs go unmet when you were a child. To feel invisible. To have to care for instead of being taken care of. To never be loved the way you needed to be loved.

To a real narcissist, they are the center of all worlds. Not their family, not their spouse, and sadly, not their children.

Having a narcissistic parent is one of the most incredibly painful experiences there is. Dealing with this through your developmental years and into adulthood can leave a lasting impact on…

- your self-esteem and self-worth,
- how you understand and manage your emotions,
- how you value your own needs and desires,
- the quality of all of your relationships (and, honestly, your life!)

It can also be extremely isolating, because there’s a lot of societal pressure to have a great relationship with your parents and to respect them no matter what, right?

Unfortunately, this is a topic that I get asked about a lot, and you know that I am dedicated to sharing anything and everything I can to raise awareness around mental health, to lessen suffering and to help you better understand yourself…so that you can heal.

In this week’s episode, I pull back the curtain on narcissism and give you 20 real-life behaviors, signs and signals your parent might exhibit if they are a narcissist. Because you deserve to be seen.

Grab the guide for this episode here:
https://www.terricole.com/is-your-parent-a-narcissist-guide

Sounds True Understanding Narcissism Summit: https://www.soundstrue.com/products/understanding-narcissism-summit

TIME STAMPS:
0:00 - Introduction from Terri
3:20 - 1: Narcissists are boundary bullies
3:41 - 2: They use codependency to control you
5:20 - 3: The love of a narcissistic parent is conditional
5:53 - 4: It's always about them
7:00 - 5: They are vengeful
7:30 - 6: They want attention
8:00 - 7: They are massive guilt-trippers
8:58 - 8: Narcissistic parents are competitive with you
12:25 - 9: They take credit for your accomplishments
13:26 - 10: They are thin-skinned
14:03 - 11: They are terrible listeners
15:00 - 12: They can be rude or critical
15:25 - 13: They are controlling
15:47 - 16: Narcissistic family systems are unfair
16:56 - 14: They gaslight you
18:15 - 15: They parentify you
18:49 - 17: They project
20:06 - 18: They do not have the capacity for empathy
22:01 - 19: They're always right
23:07 - 20: They are invested in outward appearances

RELATED VIDEOS:
How Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers Can Survive and Thrive: https://youtu.be/p7wbjZeKihU
Narcissistic Mother? 4 Protection Tips: https://youtu.be/hFrmWNieN_c
How to Create Bulletproof Protection Against Narcissists: https://youtu.be/dDTF5iXvbi4
The Difference Between Being Self-Centered and Narcissistic: https://youtu.be/DtmBnOsLpWo
Scapegoat, Golden Child + More: How To Identify + Heal From Narc Family Roles: https://youtu.be/2lQkcu5bDVg

ABOUT TERRI COLE
Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free.

For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs.

She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over 450,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see https://www.terricole.com/

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